You Might Belong to a Cult If…
Ten Signs of Cult Mentality
This article has been adapted from the Heartfire Rising (Mini) Podcast. CLICK HERE to listen to the episode.
I’m hearing a lot in the media today related to cults. Beyond religion, a cult mentality can also be found in politics, in organizations and businesses, and anywhere where there is a strong belief system or strong values in place.
With that said, you may encounter a group that tends to believe the same way and talk and act the same way. And they can be very uncomfortable to be around, but that group might not be a cult. I’m not suggesting you join them. But I would like to offer today some red flags or signs of a cult mentality. Once again, these are not limited to religious groups. They can apply to any organization or school of thought.
I’m drawing upon these in part from my own experience; I spent the first 18 and a half years of my life growing up in a doomsday cult. I’m also including findings from other researchers who’ve studied cults over the years. So let’s dive in.
You Might Belong to a Cult If…
1) You’re not allowed to ask questions that might contradict doctrine; critical thinking is frowned upon and often met with anger and punishment.
2) You are isolated or discouraged from associating with people outside the group.
3) If you disobey the rules, you may be ostracized, and even family members may stop speaking with you (if they are members of the group).
4) There is usually a supreme leader who feels they are chosen by a higher power or unique somehow and demands loyalty. This person claims to have special knowledge, and any criticism of the leader is seen as persecution. (By the way, the rules of the group do not apply to the leader. They can do pretty much whatever they want.)
5) There are strict rules in place about your lifestyle choices, how you dress, who you marry, what you eat, how you conduct yourself, and even your position within the group. Most day-to-day decisions are made for you.
6) Your accomplishments are a result of the group’s influence not your own doing. However, if you mess up well, that’s because you’re a terrible, selfish person or that some outside influence caused you to mess up because of your weakness of character.
7) You are required to give large amounts of money to the group, either as a donation to maintain and grow the group or to purchase materials and services that you need to support your growth.
Let me say that again…It’s not a request for a donation where you can say, “no.” It’s a requirement.
8) Emotional manipulation is a key component of a cult. For example, if you’re feeling bad about yourself or your life members will build you up, but if you feel great about yourself, be prepared to get knocked down a few pegs.
9) Cults take on a, “If you’re not with us, you’re against us mentality.” You’re either “all in,” or you’re in trouble.
10) Fear tactics are a sign of a cult. If you disobey, the devil (whomever, the “devil” may be in the context of an organization) will win. You will be in terrible danger and may even die. You are encouraged to stay within the safety of the group.
So I threw a lot of information out at you.
Today’s Action Item
Today’s action item is pretty simple. The next time you question a group or a belief system, go through some of these signs and see how many of those red flags you check off because any is cause for concern.
Thanks for taking this time with me today. Until next time, take care of yourself.
NOTE: I’m happy to answer any questions you may have about experiences in your own life related to cults. Email me: danielle@daniellepalli.com.
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